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Kubva muurombo kuenda kumuchato unoshamisa! Nyaya yangu yepfungwa yekubatana nevanhu vane masimba Sumo: Mazuva ehurombo nekusurukirwa Kwenguva refu, hupenyu hwangu hwaive hwakazara nehurombo nekusurukirwa. Kukura kwake kwairwadza uye aigara achinetswa nedambudziko remari. Panyaya yerudo uye muchato, handina kukomborerwa nebatano dzakanaka dzipi nedzipi, uye ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kuva netariro ipi neipi yenguva yemberi. Iyo inokonzeresa shanduko Rimwe zuva, shamwari yangu yakandidzidzisa maitiro ekuchinja hupenyu hwako nekunyorazve pfungwa dzako dzisingazivi. Pakutanga ndakanga ndisina chokwadi, asi ndakasarudza kuedza, ndichifunga kuti hapana chandairasikirwa nacho. Uku kwaiva kuchinja kukuru kwakachinja zvachose upenyu hwangu. Inner Shanduko Ndakatora nhanho dzinotevera kunyorazve kufenda kwangu. Kunatsiridza kuzviremekedza Positive self-dialogue: Ndakaita tsika yekutaura mashoko akanaka kwandiri mazuva ese. Nekuzvikurudzira nekuzvisimbisa, kuzviremekedza kwangu kwakawedzera zvishoma nezvishoma. Somuenzaniso: "Ndiri munhu akakodzera uye ndakakodzera kudiwa." Kuona uye Kufungisisa Fungidzira ramangwana rako rakanaka: Tora nguva yekufungisisa uye kuzviona uri kubudirira uye kufara kuroora. Izvi zvakandibvumira kuti ndiise ramangwana rakanaka mupfungwa dzangu dzisiri dzepfungwa. Muenzaniso: Panguva yekufungisisa kwako kwemangwanani, fungidzira zvakadzama chiitiko chauri kugara uchifara nemumwe munhu ane simba. Kuvaka Hukama Networking: Akatora chikamu muzviitiko uye kuungana kuvaka hukama nevanhu vatsva. Izvi zvakashandura nharaunda yangu uye zvakagadzira mikana mitsva. Semuenzaniso: Enda kumasemina ebhizinesi nemapati emagariro uye taurirana nevanhu vanobva kwakasiyana siyana. Dzidzira uye Mibairo Nekutevera nzira idzi, hupenyu hwangu hwachinja zvakanyanya. Kudzoreredzwa kuzviremekedza: Nekukoshesa uye nekuzvisimbisa pachangu, ndave ndine chivimbo. Izvi zvakavandudzawo ukama hwangu nevamwe. Kuwedzera hukama hwangu: Kuburikidza nemanetiweki matsva, mahorizoni angu akawedzera uye mikana yakawanda yakavhurwa. Panguva iyoyo, ndakakwanisa kuonana nomunhu aiva pachigaro uyo wandiri kushanda naye iye zvino. Kubudirira Uye Muchato: Kuburikidza nekunyorazve ndisingazivi uye kushanda nesimba, ndakakwanisa kuroorwa nemurume ane simba ndokurarama upenyu hunofadza. Matambudziko angu emari akagadziriswa uye ndakakwanisa kurarama hupenyu hwakagadzikana. Kusangana nemumwe mutsva Kuburikidza nemaitiro aya, ndichasangana nemumwe mutsva.

  Nyaya inoshamisa yekuti ini, ndakanga ndisina kuzvivimba, ndakawedzera kukwezva nekuwedzera mapheromones angu Sumo: Mazuva ekurasikirwa nekuzvivimba Kwenguva refu, ndakashaya chivimbo mukukwezva kwangu. Ndaiwanzonzwa ndisingakoshi kune vanhu vakandipoteredza, uye kusava nechivimbo kwangu kwainyanya kuoneka muukama norudo. Ndakaita mazuva akawanda ndichinetseka kuti pane chimwe chinhu chandaishaya, uye kuzviremekedza kwangu kwakanga kuchidzikira. Chinokonzeresa shanduko Rimwe zuva, shamwari yangu yakandiudza nzira yekuwedzera kukwezva kwako nekuwedzera kugadzirwa kwemapheromones ako. Ndakanga ndisina chokwadi pakutanga, asi chido changu chakasimba chekuita mutsauko chakanditungamirira kuti ndiedze. Kushandura Kwemukati Kuti tiwedzere kugadzirwa kwepheromone, takatora matanho anotevera. Kudzika kuzviziva Kunyora: Zuva rega rega ndainyora pasi manzwiro angu nepfungwa mujenari. Izvi zvakatibvumira kuongorora zvikonzero zvekuzvitarisira pasi. Muenzaniso: "Ndakanga ndisingavimbi muchitarisiko changu nhasi. Chii chingave chakakonzera izvozvo?" zvinoita se. Muenzaniso: Paunenge uchifungisisa, unodzokorora, ``Ndinokwezva uye ndine chivimbo,'' uye unoisa mufananidzo iwoyo mupfungwa dzako. Kutora Hutano Hwehupenyu Kudya uye Kurovedza muviri: Kutora kudya kune hutano uye kugara uchirovedza muviri kwakabatsira kuenzanisa mahomoni mumuviri uye kwakakurudzira kugadzirwa kwemapheromones. Somuenzaniso: Ndakaedza kudya kudya kwakadzikama uye kuwedzera yoga uye kumhanyira kumararamiro angu ezuva nezuva. Kutarisira Chitarisiko Changu Kutarisira Uye Kutsvinda: Kungwarira chitarisiko changu uye kutarisira zvakanaka ganda rangu nebvudzi zvakandibatsira kuti ndiwedzere kuva nechivimbo. Muenzaniso: Ndakagadzira muitiro wekuchengeta ganda zuva nezuva uye ndakatarisa pakutaridzika zvakanaka. Dzidzira Nemibairo Nekuenderera mberi nemaitiro aya, zvishoma nezvishoma ndakava nechivimbo mukukwezva kwangu. Kudzoreredzwa kwekuzvivimba: Kuburikidza nekuzviziva uye kudzidziswa kwemifananidzo yakanaka, maonero angu pachangu akachinja uye kuzvivimba kwangu kwakadzoreredzwa. Kuwedzera Kukwezva: Kuita mararamiro ane hutano uye kutarisira chitarisiko chako kwakawedzera kugadzirwa kwemapheromones uye kwakachinja nzira iyo vanhu vanoita kwauri. Kunyanya, ndakatanga kuona shanduko dzakanaka muhukama hwangu uye rudo. Kusangana nemunhu mutsva Mukuita kwekuwedzera kugadzirwa kwemapheromones, ndakasangana nemunhu mutsva.

Nyaya inoshamisa yekuti ini, ndakanga ndisina kuzvivimba uye ndisina chokwadi nemumwe wangu, ndakakunda godo nekuzvidya mwoyo uye kuvaka hukama hwakasimba.Chirevo: Mazuva ekukahadzika nekupomera Ukama hwedu hunobva mukusazvivimba uye kusava nechokwadi nguva dzose pamusoro pemumwe wangu. . Ndaiwanzopomera mumwe munhu kunyange chinhu chiduku zvikuru uye ndairwadzisa mumwe munhu nemashoko nezviito zvinobva mugodo. Nekuda kweizvozvo, hukama hwakatonhora uye zvakava zvakaoma kuvaka kuvimbana. Chaikonzeresa shanduko Rimwe zuva mushure mekunetsana nemumwe wangu, ndakaona kuti zvandaiita zvaikanganisa ukama hwedu. Ndakataura neshamwari yangu yakandidzidzisa nzira inonzi "Spiral of Self-Improvement and Empathy." Kuburikidza nenzira iyi, ndakasarudza kukunda godo rangu uye kusachengeteka uye kuvaka hukama hwakasimba. Shanduko Yemukati Ndakatora matanho anotevera kuti ndiite kutenderera kwekuzvivandudza nekunzwira tsitsi. Kuchera zvakadzika mukuzviziva: Ndakanyora uye kuverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira kuti ndiongorore zvikonzero zvemanzwiro angu uye maitiro angu. Ndakaona kuti zvakamboitika kwandiri zvinokanganisa zvandiri nhasi. Muenzaniso: Manheru ega ega, ndainyora pasi zvikonzero zvegodo nefunganyo zvandainzwa uye ndakazviongorora. "Nei ndainzwa kutya nezvekubuda neshamwari dzake nhasi?" Mhinduro uye kutaurirana: Ndakatsvaga mhinduro kubva kune mumwe wangu uye ndakaedza kutaura pachena uye nekutendeseka. Ndakataura pachena manzwiro angu uye zvaindinetsa uye ndaiedza kunzwisisa manzwiro emumwe wangu. Muenzaniso: "Nguva ichangopfuura, ndanga ndichinzwa godo zvikuru. Unofungei pamusoro pazvo Kupisa tsitsi. Kuburikidza netsitsi, takavaka kuvimba uye kusimbisa hukama. Muenzaniso: Ndakashandisa mazwi etsitsi ndichiteerera mumwe wangu. "Izvozvo zvakanga zvakaoma. Ndinofunga kuti ndaizonzwa nenzira imwe chete kana ndaiva mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana Dzidzira uye Zvigumisiro Nokuenderera mberi nemaitiro aya, godo rangu nekuzvidya mwoyo zvakaderera zvishoma nezvishoma. Kuvimbika kwakadzoreredzwa: Kuburikidza nekuzviziva uye nemhinduro, ndakawana kunzwisisa kwakadzama pamusoro pangu uye ndakawanazve kusatya kwangu. Izvi zvakaita kuti vasanyumwira vadiwa vavo uye zvakavandudza hukama hwavo. Kuvaka kuvimbana: Kuburikidza nekukurukurirana pachena uye kunzwira tsitsi, kuvimba nevadyidzani kwakasimbiswa. Taurai kutenda kwenyu kune mumwe nemumwe

Nyaya inoshamisa yekuti ini, ndaitya zvisungo, ndakakunda kuzvipira kwangu uye ndikakwanisa kuvaka zvisungo zvakadzika: Mazuva akasungwa nefobia yangu Ndakatambura nekuzvipira kwenguva refu. Handina kukwanisa kuita chitsidzo uye ndaitya kuvhurika. Nemhaka yezvakaitika kwandiri zvekare zvekukundikana uye kupandukira, ndagara ndichinzwa ndichinetseka pamusoro pekuvaka hukama hwakadzama nevamwe. Somugumisiro, hukama hwangu hwakaramba huri hwepamusoro uye handina kukwanisa kuwana munhu wandaigona kuvimba zvechokwadi. Chinokonzeresa shanduko Rimwe zuva, shamwari yepedyo yakati kwandiri: ``Zvinonzwisisika kuvhara pfungwa dzako kuti uzvidzivirire, asi ukaita izvozvo, ucharasikirwa nezvinonyanya kukosha.'' Mashoko iwayo akandibaya mwoyo, uye ndakanzwa zvakasimba kuti chimwe chinhu chaifanira kuchinja. Shanduko Yemukati Kuti ndikunde kutya kwangu kwekuzvipira, ndakatora matanho anotevera kuita shanduko yemukati. Kudzamisa kuzvinzwisisa kwangu: Ndakaongorora zvikonzero zvekutya kwangu kuburikidza nekunyora uye mabhuku ekuzvibatsira. Zvaive zvakakosha kwandiri kuti ndinzwisise kuti zvakaitika kwandiri zvakakanganisa sei zvandiri nhasi. Kutsvaga kurapwa: Kupangana mazano kwakandibatsira kugadzirisa manzwiro angu uye kutarisana nekutya kwangu nerubatsiro rwenyanzvi. Kunyanya, ndakadzidza kuchinja mafungiro asina kunaka kuburikidza neCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Nzira itsva: Ndakasarudza kutora matanho maduku mukuvaka hukama hutsva. Ndakatanga nekudzamisa hukama hwangu neshamwari nemhuri uye zvishoma nezvishoma ndakaedza kuvaka hukama nevanhu vatsva. Dzidzira uye Mibairo Mushure mekuita shanduko yemukati iyi, ndakatanga kuona shanduko mumaitiro angu zvakare. Rimwe zuva, ndakasangana nemunhu akanaka chaizvo wandakasangana naye kubasa. Kare, ndingadai ndakadzivisa ukama hwakadzama, asi panguva ino ndakasarudza kuzarura. Kukurukurirana Kwakasununguka: Pandiitaura naye, ndaiedza kuva akatendeseka nezvemanzwiro angu nepfungwa dzangu. Izvi zvakaita kuti andivhurirewo. Tanga nezvipikirwa zviduku: Nokuchengeta zvipikirwa zviduku pane zvipikirwa zvikuru, takakwanisa kuvaka kuvimbana. Somuenzaniso, taikoshesa kuronga kupera kwevhiki kwedu uye kupedza nguva pamwe chete. Kunzwisisana: Nekuedza kunzwisisa manzwiro ake nemifungo yake uye kumunzwira tsitsi, ukama hwedu hunosimba. Akaedzawo kundinzwisisa. Kusangana nemunhu mutsva, hukama hutsva uhu

Imwe nyaya yekuti ndakakwanisa sei kunakidzwa nekuita bonde nemumuromo mushure mekusagutsikana pasina bonde chairo ndakambonzwa kuti hapana chimwe chinhu kunze kwekunge bonde chairo. Zvisinei, ndichagovera chiitiko chakachinja maonero angu pamusoro pebonde romuromo uye chakandibatsira kunakidzwa nacho. Kuburikidza neshanduko iyi, tinokuratidza nzira yekuwedzera kugutsikana kwepabonde. Danho 1: Kuzviziva uye shanduko yekuziva Kuzviziva Chekutanga, ndakaziva kuti sei ndakanga ndakagadzika pamusoro pechiito chaicho. Ndakaona kuti pesvedzero dzenzanga nezvakaitika kare ndizvo zvakakonzera. Kuchinja mafungiro angu Ndakaverenga mabhuku uye zvinyorwa pamusoro pekudzidzisa zvepabonde kuti ndinzwisise kuti kugutsikana kwepabonde kwakasiyana. Izvi zvakaita kuti ndione kuti kuita zvepabonde nomumukanwa kunonakidzawo. Danho rechipiri: Kukurukurirana uye Kudyidzana Kukurukurirana Kwakasununguka Ndaitaurirana nemudiwa wangu pachena uye ndikaudza manzwiro angu uye tariro yangu. Tairemekedzawo mafungiro nezvishuwo zvemumwe nemumwe uye takawedzera kunzwisisana. Kuedza chimwe chinhu chitsva ndakasarudza kuedza kuita zvepabonde nemuromo kuti ndinakidzwe nechiitiko chitsva nemumwe wangu. Ndakamboti vhundukei pakutanga, asi nokuzviedza mumhepo yakasununguka nemumwe wangu, zvishoma nezvishoma ndakanakidzwa nazvo. Danho rechitatu: Kuunganidza zviitiko zvinovaka Zvibudiriro zvidiki zvishoma nezvishoma ndakaunganidza zviitiko zvinovaka pakuita zvepabonde nemumuromo. Chiitiko changu chokutanga chakabudirira chakandipa mukana wokuva nechivimbo, uye zvishoma nezvishoma ndakatanga kunakidzwa nacho. Kuenderera mberi uye Mhinduro Isu tinokoshesa kuenderera mberi kutaurirana uye mhinduro nevatinoshanda navo kuita kuti chiitiko chega chega ive nani. Takabatanidza mazano matsva uye takavandudza maererano nemhinduro dzeumwe neumwe. Mhinduro uye Summary Aya ndiwo mafambiro andakaita kubva pakusagutsikana nechimwe chinhu kunze kwebonde chairo kusvika pakunakirwa nemuromo. Kuzviziva uye kugadzirisa kwekuziva, kutaurirana uye kudyidzana, uye kuunganidzwa kwezviitiko zvakanaka.

Nyaya yekuti ndakafamba sei kubva pakuva "munhu akanaka" kusvika pakuva shamwari kupfuura kungoita shamwari Kwenguva refu, ndaigara ndichirega kushamwaridzana nekuda kwekuti mumwe mukadzi akanditi "munhu akanaka." Hazvinei kuti takaedza zvakaoma sei, ukama hwedu hahuna kumbofambira mberi kupfuura kuva shamwari. Zvisinei, pashure peimwe nguva, mamiriro acho ezvinhu akachinja zvachose. Pazasi pane nyaya yangu yekuti ndakakwanisa sei kuvaka hukama hwaive hunopfuura shamwari chete. Danho 1: Kuzviziva uye shanduko Ziva iwe pachako Kutanga, ndakaona kuti nei ndichiri "munhu akanaka". Kunyange zvazvo mutsa uye kuva nehanya zvichikosha, ndakaona kuti ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kuratidza runako rwangu. Kuzvishandura ndakatarisana nemukati mangu ndokutanga kushandura kuti ndibudise runako rwangu. Nekuverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira uye kuedza kuzvivandudza, ndakawanazve simba rangu uye unhu hwangu. Danho rechipiri: Tine hungwaru kunatsa nzira yedu yekutaurirana Tavandudza matauriro atinoita vanhukadzi. Akanga asiri munhu ane mutsa chete, asi airatidzawo kunaka kwake nokukurukura nevamwe achiseka uye nechivimbo. Feedback uye Kuvandudza Takagamuchira mhinduro kubva kuvakadzi. Zvichienderana nemaonero avo, ndakaongorora ndikavandudza matauriro angu. Danho rechitatu: Kupfimbana nekudzika hukama Kuronga zuva Vaviri ava vakadzamisa hukama hwavo nekuronga zuva ravo nekugovana zviitiko zvakakosha. Isu takagadzira ndangariro dzakagovana nekuyedza nzvimbo nyowani nezviitwa. Kudzamisa Hukama Nekukurukura pachena manzwiro nemafungiro emumwe nemumwe, takadzamisa hukama hwedu. Kupfurikidza nokuzvibata ndimene nokutendeseka uye kukomba, vakadzi vakatanga kundirangarira zvakakomba. Migumisiro uye Summary Nenzira iyi, ndakaenda kubva pakuva "akanaka mukomana" kune murume ane chivimbo chekuvaka hukama hunopfuura shamwari chete. Kuzviziva uye shanduko, kutaurirana nemaune, uye kudzamisa kufambidzana uye hukama zvakatsigira shanduko iyi. Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha kutenda mukati mako uye kuramba uchiita chiito. Hazvina mhosva kuti shanduko idiki sei, dzinowedzera kusvika kune mibairo mikuru. Iwewo unogona kuzvitenda uye kudzamisa hukama hwako. Hazviperi nekuve "munhu akanaka"! Nzira Yakavanzika Yekuvaka Hukama neMukadzi Hunopfuura Kungoshamwaridzana Chete Kuve shamwari kwakakosha, asi dzimwe nguva unoda kuenderera mberi. Munyaya ino, ini ndichatsanangura nzira yekuva neukama nemukadzi izvo zvinopfuura kungoita shamwari pasina kuguma nekuva "munhu akanaka."

Yakakosha subliminal mimhanzi yekukubatsira kuti usazopedzisira uine munhu akanaka Buda munzvimbo yehushamwari uye upinde munzvimbo yekufambidzana. Rega kushandisa reverse subliminal meseji kuti upedze kuve "akanaka mukomana" kuvakadzi. Ko vakadzi havakuonei seshamwari here, kwete semudiwa werudo? Unoona zvakaoma here kutora nzira yorudo? Haungade here kunyatsojeka pamusoro pemanzwiro ako kune vakadzi? Haudi here kurega kuva "mukomana akanaka" uye kuwedzera mikana yako yekuwana mukadzi? Kunzi "mukomana akanaka" hazviwanzo kuunza kubudirira muhukama, uye maitiro aya haagone kukuwana iwe musikana. Iyi albhamu ichachinja zvachose nzira yaunofambidzana nayo nekudyidzana nevakadzi. Iyi maitiro inotanga nepfungwa dzako, zvaunotenda, uye nzira yaunosvika nayo kufambidzana uye kuzvibata. Kana iwe ukachinja maitiro ako uye ukarega kuva "shamwari yakanaka," mibairo yako ichave yakasiyana uye iwe uchave wakabudirira zvakanyanya nevakadzi. Fungidzira kuti ungadai uri nani sei nevakadzi kana ukarega kuva shamwari dzakanaka. Uchakwanisa kutaura nevakadzi nechinangwa chaicho chekuvaratidza kuti unofarira kupfuura shamwari chete, uye uchakwanisa kutaura manzwiro ako pachena, uchiita fungidziro yakanaka yekutanga pavakadzi iwe semunhu akatendeseka zvakanyanya. Chinonyanya kukosha ndechekuti vakadzi vachakutarisa zvakasiyana kubva pakutanga uye hauzongosundirwa parutivi. Dambarefu redu rekuti ``Don't End Up Being a Good Guy'' harisi rekuva ane utsinye kana kuti ``akaipa.'' Iri albhamu ichakubatsira kuti uwedzere kusimba, kutaura nechivimbo chinangwa chako, uye uine chivimbo kuwana zvaunoda, saka unogona kurega kuvimba uye kutarisa kumusoro. Iva mukomana anofarirwa nevasikana, kwete mukomana anoiswa munzvimbo yeshamwari. Iri dambarefu nderekubatsira kuti ugarisane zvakanaka nevakadzi. Iwe unozokwanisa kutaura nevakadzi nenzira ine chivimbo, inoshingaira uye yakasununguka. Akadaro mukadzi achizvitemba